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# Better Than Before
#### What I Learned About Making and Breaking Habits—to Sleep More, Quit Sugar, Procrastinate Less, and Generally Build a Happier Life
#### New York Times Bestseller
Habits are the invisible architecture of daily life. We repeat about 40% of our behavior almost daily, so if we change our habits, we change our lives.
But that observation just raises the question: “Okay, how do I change my habits?” Alas, no magic, one-size-fits-all solution exists—you must know yourself, and choose the strategies that work for you. It turns out that it’s not hard to change your habits, if you know what to do.
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With her signature mix of rigorous research, easy humor, and personal experimentation, *New York Times* bestselling author Gretchen Rubin identifies the 21 habit-change strategies that will help every reader to create the habits that will transform their lives. In a book that’s bursting with big, provocative ideas, Rubin shows readers how to find what works for them, even if they’ve failed before.
Along the way, Rubin uses herself as guinea pig, tests her theories on family and friends, and answers readers’ most pressing questions—oddly, questions that other writers and researchers tend to ignore:
- Why do I find it tough to create a habit for something I love to do?
- Sometimes I can change a habit overnight, and sometimes I can’t change a habit, no matter how hard I try. Why?
- I want to help someone else make a change. But how?
- Why do practically all dieters gain the weight back—plus more?
- How quickly can I change a habit?
- How can I get myself to stick to a new habit?
- Do the same strategies work for shaping simple habits (like wearing a seat belt) work for complex habits (like drinking less)?
- Why can I make time for everyone else, but can’t make time for myself?
Whether readers want to get more sleep, eat more healthfully, stop checking their phone, or finish a project, habits make change possible. It takes work to make a habit, but once that habit is set, we can harness the energy of habits to build happier, stronger, more productive lives.
#### REVIEWS & BUZZ
"The likable Gretchen Rubin, who wrote THE HAPPINESS PROJECT, makes personal observations about herself as she delivers this immensely helpful audio guide to improving our lives through building good habits. These personal references and her conversational phrasing make her audiobook sound lighthearted and inviting--full of insights that sound familiar and advice that sounds less like what you should do and more like what you want to do."
—*AudioFile Magazine*
“We’re major fans of Gretchen Rubin, bestselling author of *The Happiness Project*. Rubin’s fascination with human behavior—as well as her sincere belief that we can make our lives more fulfilling and joyous—shines through in her podcasts, blog, and books. Her new book, *Better Than Before*, looks at how we form and break habits and is packed with her trademark warmth, wit, and down-to-earth intelligence.”
—*iBooks*
“*The Happiness Project* lays out life’s essential goals…Her new book, *Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives*, serves as a kind of detailed instruction manual on how to achieve them.”
—*New York Times Sunday Book Review*
"Gretchen Rubin's thesis is fascinating, persuasive... Just read this book... I strongly recommend it if you are looking to make some permanent changes in your life... It's excellent."
—Viv Groskop, *The Guardian*
“Her most revealing find? Change is possible if we do some soul searching and identify how we respond to expectations. And, just about everybody falls into one of four personality categories: Questioners, Obligers, Rebels and Upholders.”
—*Parade* (cover story)
“In *Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives*, Gretchen Rubin picks up where \[William\] James left off, integrating a wealth of insight from psychology, sociology, and anthropology in an illuminating field guide to harnessing the transformative power of habit in modern life.”
—*Brain Pickings*
# Habits:The Strategy of Scheduling
The Strategy of Scheduling, of setting a specific, regular time for an activity to recur, is one of the most familiar and powerful strategies of habit-formation.
[ Read More ](/2014/06/video-for-habits-try-the-strategy-of-scheduling)
# Habits:
The Strategy of First Steps
The Strategy of First Steps is one of the three strategies that relate to “the Best Time to Begin.” I mention “**tomorrow logic**,” which is related to the ever-popular [**Tomorrow Loophole**](/happiness_project/2014/01/strategy-of-loophole-spotting-3-the-tomorrow-loophole/). The fact is, once we’re ready to begin, the best time to start is *now*.
[ Read More ](/2014/07/video-for-habits-the-strategy-of-first-steps)
# Habits:
The Strategy of the Lightning Bolt
Discussions of habit-change often emphasize the importance of repeating an action, over and over, until it becomes automatic, and such repetition does indeed help to form habits. However, it’s also true that sometimes we’re hit by a lightning bolt that transforms our habits.
[ Read More ](/2014/08/video-for-habits-the-strategy-of-the-lightning-bolt)
# Habits:
The Strategy of Monitoring
The Strategy of Monitoring is an an observational strategy. It doesn’t require that I change what I’m doing, only that I know what I’m doing. This is crucial to habit formation, because once I recognize what I’m doing, I may choose to behave differently.
[ Read more ](/2014/05/video-for-habits-try-the-strategy-of-monitoring)
# Habits:
The One Coin Loophole
There are **[ten categories of loopholes](https://gretchenrubin.com/articles/of-the-10-categories-of-loopholes-which-do-you-use/)**, or for justifications that will excuse us from keeping this particular habit in this particular situation. This one is the most dangerous, it always applied and is always true! Beware!
[ Read more ](https://gretchenrubin.com/articles/of-the-10-categories-of-loopholes-which-do-you-use/)
# Resources and Downloads
Find more helpful resources, checklists, and free PDF downloads related to habit-formation.
[ LEARN MORE ](/resources/#better-than-before-resources-section)
#### MORE RESOURCES
[Getting Started: Habits](https://gretchenrubin.com/getting-started-habits/)
[The Essential 7 Habits to Foster Happiness](https://gretchenrubin.com/articles/the-essential-7-habits-to-foster-happiness/)
[The Subject of My Next Book, the Most Fascinating Subject Ever](https://gretchenrubin.com/articles/the-subject-of-my-next-book-the-most-fascinating-subject-ever/)
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