My current emphasis: how to make good habits and break bad ones (really)

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Have you discovered any Secrets of Adulthood? Here are a few of mine.

CoffeenewsI love taking notes and making lists, so one thing that makes me particularly happy is coming up with my Secrets of Adulthood. I get a big kick out of them.

I’d come up with a few new ones recently, but I hadn’t taken the time to add them to my full list on the left-hand column of the blog, until today.

Here are my latest additions:

People don’t notice your mistakes and flaws as much as you think.

It’s easier to prevent pain than to squelch it. (This is true literally and figuratively.)

Where you start makes a big difference in where you end up.

Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. (Okay, Voltaire made that up, not me—it’s one of the most important Secrets of Adulthood.)

It’s nice to have plenty of money. (Note: I don’t say that it’s essential to have plenty of money; also, I do not define “plenty.”)

Most decisions don’t require extensive research.

If you want to talk to someone, stand next to that person while he/she finishes another conversation; in time that person will turn to speak to you.

That last Secret of Adulthood seems a little too specific to be on the list, but I must admit, it’s a secret that I’ve only recently understood and embraced, and it’s made my life much easier. That’s why I posted about it yesterday, too.

Just the other night, at a cocktail party, I stood like a patient lump, until it was my turn to talk to someone to whom I needed to speak.

I said to myself, “It’s okay to stand here, and listen, until it’s my turn.” And it was okay, and I had my turn, and I accomplished what I needed to accomplish, and it was very satisfying.

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