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Your Happiness Project: Read something for fun.

BooksinstackI’m working on my Happiness Project, and you should have one, too! Everyone’s project will look different, but it’s the rare person who can’t benefit. Join in — no need to catch up, just jump in right now. Each Friday’s post will help you think about your own happiness project.

This week — read something for fun!

I’ve noticed something when I ask people what they’re reading: they often name some highly estimable, dense, serious book, and then confess that they’ve been reading it for months.

I pressed one friend to explain his reading habits. “I just don’t have the time,” he said.

“Well, your books sound a bit dry,” I said. “Why don’t you read something more enjoyable?”

“When I read, I want to learn something,” he said virtuously. “I don’t want to waste my time with something that’s not worthwhile.”

“But you watch a lot of trashy TV,” I pointed out. I happened to know that he was a fan of shows like VH1’s “I Love the Eighties,” some reality TV, and lots of sports. “You don’t force yourself to watch nothing but documentaries when you’re watching TV, why shouldn’t you read something more fun?”

He didn’t really answer me. But I think this exchange highlights a problem with the way a lot of people approach reading.

In general, reading is supposed to be fun! Go out and get hold of a book you want to read.

If you find yourself saying things like, “I really ought to read this,” or “I’ll be glad that I read this,” or “This is an important book,” you probably don’t really want to read that book.

Sometimes, of course, we all need to read books that we aren’t particularly interested in—say, for work. I’m lucky in that way, because the way I choose my work subject is by asking myself, “What’s a subject about which I’d like to read 500 books?” And then I read 500 books and write my own book on that subject. Now, not everyone call pull that off, true.

But along with the books I read for work, following my resolution to “Read better” and “Read at whim,” I let myself read books just because I feel like it. I read a lot of children’s literature. I re-read a lot of books—this weekend, I re-read George Orwell’s A Collection of Essays. I read a lot of odd books. I read a lot, generally. But if I try to make myself read something that I don’t really feel like reading, my reading drops off considerably. I just don’t find the time for it. But when I’m reading something good, I find myself reading for hours each day.

Samuel Johnson observed, “A man should read whatever his immediate inclination prompts him to; though, to be sure, if a man has a science to learn, he must regularly and resolutely advance.” He added, “What we read with inclination makes a much stronger impression. If we read without inclination, half the mind is employed in fixing the attention; so there is but one half to be employed on what we read.”

Science backs this up. When researchers tried to figure out what helped third- and fourth-graders remember what they read, they found that the students’ interest in the passage was far more important than the “readability” of the passage—thirty times more important.

When you have the right book, nothing is more fun than reading. So go to a bookstore or a library or online and get a book that you want to read. The test? You should feel like going straight home and sitting down to read it, immediately.

Don’t judge yourself. Let yourself read what you want. Remember, it’s supposed to be FUN. And it is fun, nothing is more fun, if you’re reading something you enjoy.

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The wonderful folks at the Savvy Source – a great site for parents of preschoolers — were nice enough to do an interview with me. Check out the site — lots there.

On Gimundo, I read a fascinating article about a town in Germany that eliminated traffic lights, stop signs, and pedestrian crosswalks — and eliminated accidents. I can imagine this working in a small town — but what are the larger lessons? Very provocative.

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