“How Do I Avoid Be Dragged Down By Difficult People?”

2012 Happiness Challenge: For those of you following the 2012 Happiness Project Challenge, to make 2012 a happier year—and even if you haven’t officially signed up for the challenge—welcome! Each week, I post a video about some Pigeon of Discontent raised by a reader. Because, as much as we try to find the Bluebird of Happiness, we’re also plagued by the Pigeons of Discontent.

This week’s Pigeon of Discontent, suggested by a reader, is: “How do I avoid being dragged down by difficult people?”

How do I avoid being dragged down by difficult people.

If you want to read more about this resolution, check out…

Quiz: Are you a “Tigger” or an “Eeyore”?
Quiz: Are you the one that everyone finds difficult?
9 tips for dealing with difficult relatives.
Make people happier by acknowledging that they’re not feeling happy.

Readers! What’s your Pigeon of Discontent? What issue would you like to see me address on a video? Please post your suggestion in the comments below, or email me at gretchenrubin1@gretchenrubin.com. What’s on your mind?

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  • Martina

    You are right, Gretchen, trying to convince people to change to a more positive approach is exhausting and I stopped doing this.
    But what can I do, if the other people, the always negative ones, try their best to convince me, that their world view is the only real on and I always get trapped in defense mode.
    Often it seems they would feel so much “happier” in their unhappiness, if I would not be so dam´happy.

  • Lynette

    Junell, you are not alone. I feel the same way too. A question that’s been going around in my mind is: “Am I more gifted in FINDING creative things (that I tend to recreate) and then should I employ (affordable?) and direct someone to work along side me?” 1. I will have accountability & 2. I will have help and no longer feel overwhelmed to do the project. Just sharing my thoughts with you. =)

  • Joan

    Gretchen,
    Taking good care of two young grand children at their house 5 days a week. LOVING THEM LIKE CRAZY. Daddy works from home. He does not care to greet us when we walk in in the morning. There is no conversation at all all day. When I attempt with something like, “how’s it going” I rarely get any response. He is rude. Now what?
    Joan