Announcement! Join the 21 Day Relationship Challenge.

For many people, I’ve noticed, the element of Happier at Home that resonates most is the discussion of relationships.

Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree that a key to happiness–probably the key to happiness–is strong relationships with other people, so while I didn’t set out to write a “relationship” book, I’m happy to hear that the book is helping people so much in that area.

We all want a loving, attentive, and engaged atmosphere in our home. And warm relationships will do more than anything to make our home a happy place.

For that reason, in honor of the New Year, I’ve organized a 21 Day Relationship Challenge.

Here’s how it will work. Every morning, for three weeks, you’ll get an  email with a resolution for you to try at home, as a way to strengthen your bonds with others. They’re some of my favorites from Happier at Home, plus a few longtime stalwarts.

In just twenty-one days, you really can take many small steps–without spending much time, energy, or money–to deepen your relationships.

In addition to the emails, each day I’ll post here so we’ll have the opportunity to exchange ideas and experiences with others doing the Challenge. We can all learn from each other, so I hope you join the discussion.

Join the Challenge here. Learn more about it here.

The Challenge officially starts on Monday, January 14 (part of the zest of New Year’s resolution, but with a slight delay so the dust can settle after the holidays). But you can join any time, even long after the start date has passed.

Here’s a short video:

Relationships are just one aspect of Happier at Home; it also examines other aspects of “home” such as possessions, time, body, and neighborhood. And it goes deeper into the subject of relationships than we can do in the 21 Day Challenge. But I hope this exercise will be FUN as well as challenging, and helpful.

Join in! A great way to start 2013.

  • http://www.smartbusinessrevolution.com/ John Corcoran

    Great idea for a challenge… I am looking forward to participating in the challenge starting in mid-January. I think this idea is especially relevant and poignant today, with the news filled with stories of the unspeakable tragedy in Newtown. My heart aches for those families.

    • gretchenrubin

      I don’t hear news until very late in the day, so I found out about Newtown very late.
      So heart-breaking, shocking, inexplicable. Staggering.

      By coincidence, I just finished reading Kraybill and Nolt’s “Amish Grace: How Forgiveness Transcended Tragedy” about the 2006 school shooting in Nickel Mines, PA. It is a thought-provoking examination of how the Amish community responded, and I highly recommend it.

  • http://twitter.com/IyetadeOyeilumi Iyetade Oyeilumi

    Great idea, I’m signing up!

  • angelbird72

    This sounds like an awesome idea! I was wondering though if you could add a rough transcript of your video? I can’t watch videos and I’ve really missed your posts since you started doing mainly videos.

    • gretchenrubin

      I only do a video once a week, practically all my work is in writing.

      Good idea… I’ll see if there’s a way to add a transcript.

      • angelbird72

        Huh, I guess it probably only seems like ‘mainly’ because I notice them! Thanks very much for taking the time to respond.

  • Eva

    Terrific idea to start the new year, Gretchen! I just subscribed. THANK YOU! Evelina (from Italy)

    • gretchenrubin

      I hope you find it useful!

  • Jennifer

    I love this!Thank you so much for this challange!!

    • gretchenrubin

      Terrific! I hope you find it useful.

  • Susan

    I live by myself. I do want to work on relationships with friends, family and coworkers. Does this program apply to me?

    • gretchenrubin

      Yes, I think that you’ll be able to use the resolutions with all different kinds of relationships.

      • M

        Thank you Susan for asking this question, I also live alone. Looking forward to this challenge Gretchen!

  • tenii

    Will the 21 day challenge apply to a long distance relationship? I live in Afghanistan currently and want to make sure my relationship continues to grow while I’m away.

    • gretchenrubin

      There is a range of resolutions, so that everyone can have ones to pick and choose among.

  • Jennifer

    what a great start date…it is our anniversary :)

    • gretchenrubin

      How auspicious!

  • Just Jaime

    Very excited about this! I just signed up!

  • Tariq Aftab

    Now a days I am going through a beautiful book “LONG WALK TO FREEDOM” passionately. Next week I like to start working on “THE HAPPINESS PROJECT”. Isn’t not a happy coincidence? ……..Yes/No

  • http://twitter.com/adrookie Daisy

    Thanks for much for this! I am signing up for this :)

  • http://twitter.com/adrookie Daisy

    p.s. I love that you acknowledged the holiday dust :)

  • Chris

    The link to join leads to a 404 :-(

    • gretchenrubin

      Sorry! Fixed!

  • Relationship Challenger

    Link is broken for me too.

  • Kerri

    I can’t seem to get the link to work :(

  • Cindy

    Working link please???

    • gretchenrubin

      Fixed now! Sorry!

  • gaerda

    Link doesnt work for me either….

    • gretchenrubin

      Sorry about the broken link! Fixed now.

  • caroline

    if you go back to the top of the home page, and see the boxed post at the top, there is a signup there or you can click through for details and another sign up box.

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