Have You Ever Thought, “This Time Is Different?”

I have a friend who has started a new course of healthful eating. She told me, “This time is different. I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life, I’ve been on a thousand diets, but this time I’m changing my eating habits for good.”

I think many of us have had a similar experience, when we’ve thought: “This time is different,” “Something just clicked,” “I see the light,” “I have to do this now.” For me, this kind of realization often takes the form of, “At last, this is the approach I’ve been looking for.”

Here are my questions for you:

 Have you had this experience? If so, with what aspect of your life?

 Did it turn out to be true that “this time is different”?

 Did change come gradually or suddenly?

 Did the change stick with you, or did you drift back to your former behavior?

 If you did drift back to your former behavior, how long did the change stick? Did it leave any lasting marks?

(If you want more questions for self-knowledge, read on here.)

I’d tried to do strength-training, on and off, for years. Then a friend casually remarked, “If you want to do weight-training, you should go to my gym, Inform Fitness.” I wrote down the information, made an appointment, and have never stopped going. It didn’t take much–just that one remark–but if she hadn’t happened to make the suggestion, I might never have started. At last, it was the approach I was looking for.

I spend so much time thinking about how people change. An endlessly fascinating subject.

  • http://twitter.com/kjsouthernbelle Katie Johnson

    I like your statement, ” this is the approach I’ve been looking for.” Yes, I’ve experienced this with my finances. I’ve been in and out of debt and thoroughly annoyed with myself. I understand checks and balances, but somehow couldn’t resist material goods. However, 2 1/2 years ago something struck me between the eyes and it’s a steady climb out of debt with no looking back. At the end of the day debit cards are not for me:-)

    • Katie

      Katie, when you say debit cards are not for you does that mean you are using cash, I suppose?

      • http://twitter.com/kjsouthernbelle Katie Johnson

        Yes, I went on the cash diet, which helped me pinpoint the waste of random $20’s. This method also helps me to think twice about items I don’t necessarily ‘need.’

  • Randee Bulla

    Life is a series of decisions, and for me it’s just easiest to start small and build over time. I ask myself, “What one thing could I do different.” I try it out and absorb it into my routine if I like it. Rinse and repeat. What helps me make sure that “this time is different”, is that I no longer let the effort to be perfect get in the way of just trying to do something better. For example, I had wanted to be consistent with my working out. I was really out of shape and uncomfortable with how I felt and looked. I’ve gone on many exercise programs before and once tired of any aspect of it, just stopped. Nothing really became a habit that stuck, even if I’d been doing it for a few months because it was such a drastic change from my normal. So two and a half years ago I read about a running group in the paper and joined. I ran with them every Tuesday night, and did some cross training with them every Thursday night. I stopped being sore after a few weeks, and made some great friends. A month or two after I started, I added another day of running. A few months after that, I ran a bit more and so on. Because it wasn’t a total modification of my entire behavior of not exercising it didn’t feel intimidating and became something I looked forward to and became part of my routine. Now, I work out five days a week and swim, bike, and run with this great group of people and I’ve never been more fit while having such a great time. A big change when you look at where I started just a few years ago, but since the changes were so gradual, it never felt contrived or forced and just became part of who I am now. I’ve been doing the same with my diet and the same holds true for me. I just added a cup of broccoli here one month, a banana there a while later, some greek yogurt, and so one. I still kept my favorite foods around, I just added other ones that were really healthy. Just one change at a time. Amazing how different my diet is a few years later, but it just feels natural.

    • peninith1

      this sounds like a great approach to me.

    • lorriebeauchamp

      Yes, this is a GREAT approach. I did the same with exercise, because I was always putting an obstacle in front of it – such as, “I have to join a gym”, or “I have to make time for it during a busy day”, etc. Finally, bored with TV one night, I got down on the floor and started doing sit-ups. Just 10 of them. The next night I did 5 push-ups (that’s all I could manage). One year later, my evening routine has become a joyful time of listening to beautiful classical music, stretching out on a soft, cushiony rug, and doing my exercises. I’ve incorporated some yoga poses, can do 50 sit-ups easily and have made it up to 30 push-ups. It still only takes about 10 minutes a night, but WHAT A DIFFERENCE. More energy, more muscle, and my clothes fit a lot better.

  • peninth1

    I have experienced the dramatic motivational charge of ‘this time is different’ . . . alas, several times. And I have also experienced that odd phenomenon of somehow being able at least to look back and know when I got on the slippery slope and said ‘to heck with this’ and regained all the weight I had lost with months of very hard work. I am ‘sadder and wiser’ about ‘this time is different’ with respect to my own resolve. I wish others all the very best. I am looking for a switch to flip in my own head that will really work. I like the gradual approach in Randee Bulla’s comment, yet I am wondering if a drastic measure [short of bariatric surgery] is really what would be needed to deal with my slothful metabolism and aging, creaky body.

    What I am trying to look at and think through is HOW DID I ACCOMPLISH THE THINGS AT WHICH I SUCCEEDED? I think I learned to sew a little bit at a time, by practicing every day and being willing to do things badly until I could do them well. I learned to manage money by stepping forward a little bit at a time, and by persisting at some things I’m still working to improve. I learned to reduce the disorder in my life by whittling away at the clutter. I learned to write better by writing every day. I learned to short circuit my anxiety attacks sooner and sooner so that I didn’t have to descend into complete misery to get hold of myself. I would say that for me, there may have to be some dramatic moments, some ‘closet clean-outs’–but ‘today is the first day of the rest of your life’ thinking does not really help me. It seems to set me up for failure.

    Again, I wish others who have their ‘aha!’ moments the very best and all success.

    • Debbie Smith-Clarke

      For me, “this time is different” lasted about 60 pounds each time, then I was right back to my old habits and gained back the 60 plus. I finally had enough and went to a weight loss surgery information session. I had the surgery 6 months later and it literally changed my life! I lost 100 pounds and feel like a new, younger person! The surgery I had, the gastric sleeve is less invasive than the by pass, but still a permanent change. The thing is that the surgery is a tool. I could gain the weight back but having gone through the surgery and the seriousness of it, I am more inclined to stay on track. I see myself going back to old habits and try to reel myself in. It’s been almost two years and I don’t regret one thing about it! I would do it again tomorrow!

  • Mary

    This seems to be how most significant changes happen in my life. I tried to quit smoking dozens of time, then one day I just said “enough of this” and haven’t smoked in 10 years. Same with credit card debt. Same with bad relationships. Same with overeating. I struggled over and over, til I just…got it. Maybe some people learn in tiny increments and need to fail multiple times, gaining a little bit more knowledge and self-awareness each time, before they get to the Aha moment. So what seems like a drastic change is really a slow, long-term process.

    • peninith1

      yes, this was true for me with smoking (as it has NOT been true for other things) but one can abstain from smoking altogether–as is not possible with food. I did try many times to quit, and finally had a moment where I (then about 40) was in the hall smoking with two old hard bitten men, and decided I just did not want to DO this any more. I had to resolve over and over in that first year to quit each time a book of matches appeared in a jacket pocket, or I found myself in a place where I had been smoking before, but I aimed for that year target, held a big party for friends to celebrate, and have not had a cigarette since 22 February, 1990. Sometimes it CAN work.

      • gretchenrubin

        Congratulations! Such a tough, tough habit to kick.

  • Jenna

    My decisions for big changes often don’t feel like decisions at all. The things I really want to do (which aren’t many) happen with little thought. The next day I’ll think, why didn’t I do this all along? But I think that has to do with being an abstainer. I’m all or nothing with diet and exercise, like a few years ago I switched from no exercise to working out most days. The only two times I’ve moved I only visited the new city once and felt like I could live their happily. I’d rather be someone who can make little changes though. Relying on big changes only often leads to no change at all. For some reason I can’t get little changes to stick or lead to bigger changes, probably because it’s too easy to fall back on old habits.

    • gretchenrubin

      This is a very good insight into yourself to have! For some, small incremental change; others, dramatic change.

  • http://www.facebook.com/chris.b.behrens Chris B. Behrens

    I have had these moments, but in the long view, they were really more straws that (positively) broke the camel’s back. I’ve lost around seventy pounds over the last year, and while it’s easy to see particular changes I made in exactly that timeframe, it was ultimately the accrual of small improvements that finally resulted in a situation that could be sustained as a healthier lifestyle.

    I think there is something particular to human nature that makes us look for grand, dramatic moments like you describe, and I suppose they do happen sometimes, but positive changes in my life have only occurred as the consequence of something changing bit by bit over years.

  • Finn2016

    I have had this going on my life for the past seven months. I am following my plan to lose weight, find a job and keep my house. I have changed my behavior of acquiring things to make me happy. I realize it’s temporary and that I have to take care of the things after I get them. UGH. I think I have become a minimalist, less is more.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kimsalrin Kim Salrin

    I’ve been trying to learn to wait patiently until most of the figurative stars are in alignment (not all, which never happens) to start a new habit or routine. For example, I changed the way our family eats not on January 1st, when body aches and general winter grumpiness is sure to tank any weight-loss efforts, but in early April, when I was inspired by the renewal of Spring and by wanting to be outside to walk for exercise. I started my Happiness Project one August, with the beginning of the school year, rather than at the first of the year, because it felt right. I started it that year also because I was turning 35 and didn’t like how I felt much older than my age mentally and physically — my birthday was a bigger impetus that led to a lot of small changes that grew into habits with time and maintenance.
    So far it’s been true that this time, it IS different. Even when my husband was sick this winter, we reverted to comfort food a bit, but stayed close to our new weights and got back on the healthy eating wagon when Spring came again. Now we’re a little looser with our food rules, but much closer to the new habits than the old ones. For me, it’s a no-brainer — I worked almost as hard at re-learning how to eat healthy as I did at quitting smoking before my son was born, and there’s no way I’m going back to either unhealthy habit without a fight.

    • gretchenrubin

      For my book Happier at Home, I started my project with the beginning of the school year, too – I agree, that feels like a new year, the turning over a new leaf.

      • Esther

        As an Australian now living in the Northern Hemisphere, I find that twice a year – the calendar start, which is the start of the school year at home, and August/September, start of the school year here – both feel like times to make those changes in my life. But neither feel quite right (I suspect I am waiting for ‘all the stars to align’).

        I sometimes use the metaphor of ‘planting seeds’ and then ‘watering’ them to describe the process of change. Those times that you start but don’t continue with the change are the watering stages, then one day, the plant is grown.

  • LizCat

    I had this experience last summer, when I decided to finally conquer my fear of perpendicular parking (not parallel–just parking between two cars in a lot). I had scraped a car many years ago, and over time my small fear grew into a phobia. I would park only if I had at least two spaces on either side, and, I’m embarrassed to say, I would most likely skip an event if I thought the lot would be too crowded. If I wasn’t sure, I’d obsess for days in advance, sometimes even driving by the lot to see how full it got. Needless to say, with three kids, this had a huge impact on our lives. Finally last summer I decided to work on the problem until it was gone for good. I called a driving school and scheduled three lessons, insisting that we go to the most crowded lots in the area. I dragged my DH out every weekend with cones to practice. I absolutely hated it the first few times, but I was determined to rid myself of the phobia. It took about two weeks of intense practice before the knot in my stomach relaxed. I know I could very easily slip back into my old comfort zone–really, does anyone LOVE dealing with crowded parking lots?–but I refuse to do so after all the effort I expended. This time, it really was different.

    • gretchenrubin

      Congratulations! As someone who battles a serious dread of driving, I know exactly how that is.

      What shifted to make you take the three classes and deal with it? Why then and not before or later?

      • LizCat

        I had bought a ticket to a concert as a birthday present to myself. I was going alone and there was no public transportation, so I didn’t have any out. The venue warned that it would be festival parking only and to arrive early. I had limits on when I could leave the house, so I realized that I had to either step up now or eat the price of the ticket. The costs in both cash and missing the experience were finally too great! As it happens, when I finally arrived that night, they had me start a new row, so I didn’t have any trouble. But I’ve had important kid-related events since then that I am proud to say I attended with no anxiety (related to parking, at least).

      • LizCat

        I had bought a ticket to a concert as a birthday present to myself. I was going alone and there was no public transportation, so I didn’t have any out. The venue warned that it would be festival parking only and to arrive early. I had limits on when I could leave the house, so I realized that I had to either step up now or eat the price of the ticket. The costs in both cash and missing the experience were finally too great! As it happens, when I finally arrived that night, they had me start a new row, so I didn’t have any trouble. But I’ve had important kid-related events since then that I am proud to say I attended with no anxiety (related to parking, at least).

  • http://twitter.com/SimpleWhiteRab Christy King

    I used to have those moments, but they never worked out, so now I just stick to small changes. Most of those actually stick.

  • Kathy

    First time in more than 20 yrs actual changes are working. I have a new dr that is helping me make permanent changes. The moment of truth was back in January-an disinterested doctor that just didn’t meet my expectations–a coworker recommended my current dr over a year & a half ago, finally made the change. I could write volumes, but in six weeks I’ve made huge changes and feel great. Also, I’m losing weight and on the road to permanent health.

    • gretchenrubin

      What did the new doctor do differently that made such a change possible?

  • Goodie

    I turned 40 two years ago. I was tired of feeling the “blahs”. I knew I had to make a change if I wanted to live another 40 healthy years. A friend of mine recommended CrossFit. To go to a gym or joing a fitness class was totally out of my comfort zone, but then I said to myself, “you know what else I’m not comfortable with, feeling like crap everyday and dying of a heart attach in my 50’s”.

    I joined Crossfit shortly thereafter, and have been going 3 days a week ever since. I feel great. I feel proud. It’s part of my life now. It’s who I am. It’s whom I’ll continue to be.

  • Rozlyn

    Reading that made me feel like it was myself. I made a resolution recently to go on a weight lose program and joined a gym… and asked a friend along to make sure I have an “encouragement partner”.. so far so good… Only have to work on the diet part and try not to pay too much attention to the readings on the scale!

  • Holly

    My changes often start with “I’m tired of….” In that moment I try to ask myself what are you willing to do about it? In many of the cases, changing the behavior involves really thinking about it not just giving it lip service. I’m tired of this closet not staying organized becomes what isn’t working? Do all these items need to be in here? Is it arranged in a way that makes sense to me? Do I need to add more/different shelving?

    Write a plan for your change and read it each week. I’m tired of being overweight/exhausted/sluggish becomes a list of things you can do to change it. Instead of skipping breakfast, take a 6-pack of yogurt to work with you on Monday. Take a 10 minute walk instead on your break. Eat one large green salad each day. Then look at the list. If you’re not really doing it–cross it off and find something else that will help keep you on target.

    Writing it down makes you think through the process and it’s a major key in reaching your goals.

  • Jenya

    I have made big changes like deciding to quit a job, move states, or get married all of a sudden, and those have stuck. But habit-building is next to impossible for me. No two days of mine look alike, even after 3 months of checking off “habits” from a to-do list.

    My husband is the opposite — I can make a small suggestion, and he changes that behavior forever. He’s a strong J on the Myers-Briggs inventory, and I’m a strong P. In your terms, Gretchen, he’s a satisficer, and I’m a maximizer. He’s an upholder, and I’m a questioner. He’s an abstainer, and I’m a moderator. Maybe helping the P-maximizer-questioner-moderators among us is extra-challenging?

  • Jenya

    I have made big changes like deciding to quit a job, move states, or get married all of a sudden, and those have stuck. But habit-building is next to impossible for me. No two days of mine look alike, even after 3 months of checking off “habits” from a to-do list.

    My husband is the opposite — I can make a small suggestion, and he changes that behavior forever. He’s a strong J on the Myers-Briggs inventory, and I’m a strong P. In your terms, Gretchen, he’s a satisficer, and I’m a maximizer. He’s an upholder, and I’m a questioner. He’s an abstainer, and I’m a moderator. Maybe helping the P-maximizer-questioner-moderators among us is extra-challenging?

  • Annette

    Flossing my teeth! A few years ago I was dreading making my biannual dentist appointment because I knew they were going to ask how often I floss my teeth. In that moment it occurred to me that I could just floss every day and then that question would never bother me. I’ve flossed consistently ever since then. It puzzles me why the solution suddenly became so obvious and so easy in that moment.

    • HEHink

      Same here, about dreading the appointment. I think my change was gradual over a few years. First, I progressed from telling the hygienist that yeah, I flossed, while being vague about how often, to admitting that I flossed only occasionally. Later, I took Gretchen’s “Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good” advice. I always felt flossing should happen at night to be most beneficial. However, I haven’t had a bedtime routine at all in years (it’s something I want to change eventually, but I’m focusing on other things right now). When I realized it only takes about a minute and I could fit it into my morning routine, I decided flossing in the morning is better than not flossing at all. I kept it up for six months, and the improvement at my next appointment was noticeable, so I’m still keeping it up. I think it worked because it fit into an already existing routine. I think change is harder if you have to create a whole new routine around it. That requires more thought and planning.

  • Allisa

    I dread cleaning the house so I implemented the same technique I use at work to take care of tasks I don’t want to do: I just do a little bit each day. I now spend just 5 minutes a day cleaning and after 6 weeks, I am going to reward myself with a new pair of shoes. I figure I can do anything for 5 minutes and I’m finding that I am able to get to all those things I rarely get to like wiping down baseboards and dusting ceiling fans.

  • Joy

    For me it’s *real* self knowledge that triggers change in my behaviours, and recognising patterns I get myself into and then start to own as just ‘who I am.’ For example, I am not someone who is ‘naturally’ tidy, so I allowed myself to believe the fiction that the chaos was a sign of a creative mind (and for some people, I am sure it is!) My mother was a complete domestic tyrant when I was growing up, and I told myself I’d never be like her. But my office was becoming increasingly cluttered and messy, and my workload was spiralling out of control. I procrastinated terribly, and complained I had no time to work. I realised after reading HP and your posts that mounds of clutter are my broken windows.’ And that I felt happy and tranquil when I walked into my office or kitchen and everything was put away and tidy. It gives me the space to relax and to create.

  • Ashley

    I tend to think about a change for a long time, but then suddenly, all at once, I’ll look up and know I’m going to do it. So the decision is at once a very long and decided process, and an immediate, spontaneous one. When I describe my “new” decision to my friends and family later, I usually say “something shifted inside me.”

    It reminds me of a poem I once read, by Terri St. Cloud. It was a lovely day – I was just coming home from a few days of camping in Shenandoah Park and felt very at peace, but knew some things were changing in me forever. We went to this little glass making shop and studio, and I picked up this book and flipped it open, and the poem read as follows:

    “mad intensities don’t just happen, she said-
    they consume you in a moment
    but they grow from lifetimes ago.”

    And that’s it, exactly.

  • lorriebeauchamp

    When you take time to listen to your inner voice (I do this with my first cup of coffee in the morning, a quiet meditative hour spent staring blindly at the weather outside the window, allowing my dream state to dissipate and my waking state to emerge) it is usually asking you to do something with common-sense difference. Sometimes it feels like a punch in the gut, at other times it feels like a hug.

    A recent one felt urgent, as if I had been ignoring it for too long. In response, I took a considerable amount of money out of my retirement fund and paid off all my debt, downsized my home, sold my car and bought a sturdy bike.

    I immediately felt better about not being part of two huge scams known as “credit” and “retirement”. My quality of life soared. I’m now living on $20 a day, making practical investments that promise solid returns, and loving the simplicity of being back in control of my finances and my future. As a bonus (and thanks to the bike) I also lost 12 lbs. and have become a vegetarian. Strange and wonderful things can happen when you listen to what you already know…

  • Jennifer Howell

    This happened to me recently. Though I’ve never been exactly overweight, I’d been eating poorly (lots of sugar and junk food) for years, maybe my whole life. Recently I finally started a diet that I’ve been able to stick to, however. It’s very simple. I eat breakfast every day, and I only allow myself 3 servings of junk food (a very specific list of items including french fries, chips, sodas and any sugary drink, candy, cookies, etc.) per week. I’ve already been a vegan for ethical reasons for 10 years, so I don’t have to worry too much about fat in the diet. This diet has worked (unlike diets in the past) for two reasons, I think. 1. I started eating breakfast every day. Without breakfast I could never maintain the willpower not to eat junk. With breakfast, I’m suitably full during the day, even if I miss lunch because of work. 2. This time I am clear about why I’m on the diet and instead of thinking of it as “I should” or “I have to” I’m thinking about it as “I want to be on a diet, because I want to be healthy, feel better emotionally and look better.” This mental switch was inspired by the book “Non-Violent Communication” which recommends getting rid of “I should” or “I have to” from your vocabulary and switching it to “I want to” after identifying why you want to do something. After 2 months on this diet I’ve lost what looks to be about 15 pounds (I’ve never weighed myself), feel better emotionally, and have more energy. I plan to stay on this diet for the rest of my life, possibly excluding a vacation here and there.

  • Heather G.

    I finally decided that my health was a priority and didn’t care shelling out $400/month for a personal trainer. In my 20’s, I was a girl that didn’t have to worry about weight gain. Fast forward to my early 30’s and all of a sudden, I had thighs and a booty. And back-fat. I was tired of failing the “weight-loss” on my own, so I enlisted the help of a professional. Think about it – we pay mechanics to change the oil, we pay a hairdresser for the expensive highlights, and I was committed to paying an expert to help me not only lose weight, but understand the science behind it.

    Don’t get me wrong, it’s been almost a year of “on-again, off-again” eating and working out, but for the last 6 months, I can honestly say that I’m eating cleaner and working out 6x / week (3 days w/ trainer + 3 days at gym doing cardio + weight training). My weight hasn’t melted off like one would think, but I am losing inches and that keeps my hopes alive and inspiration going. People are starting to notice. And best of all, I stopped smoking and my taste for food has changed. No longer craving the crap-food (fast food, quick meals, etc.). By learning about the facts, I was able to change my behavior (slowly) and begun to understand the mechanics of weight-loss.

    If anything, taking care of yourself, physically, is just one prong in a multi-faceted approach to a well-rounded spirit. I had ignored it way too long, and finally, got sick and tired of being sick and tired.

  • phoenix

    I find this topic utterly fascinating. I’ve often had that feeling, but I have too many goals and I’ve always struggled with how to balance them. I want to do better in my finances, in cleaning out clutter from my home and work, in doing a better job in losing weight and exercising more, in achieving work-life-peace balance, in having more date nights with my husband and alternating them with date nights with my kids. I think of Ben Franklin and his Journal of his 13 virtues in his quest for living better.

    I wonder whether certain personality traits make change easier–I think my biggest flaw, in terms of keeping goals, is that it is difficult for me to keep focus on only one area of my life–I feel like I’m ignoring other important aspects, but it doesn’t feel realistic to be able to do it all at once either. I also wonder if my goal keeping is impacted by the fact that I’m a big picture person. In school, I would rock it when I had just one big test or one big project. Give me a class where the grade came only from small assignments that were not meaningful but were mostly busy-work and I was sunk!

  • e

    One day my sophomore year of college I said to myself, “I should work out.” I’d never been very active before, but that very day – it was a Tuesday – I went to a step class at the campus fitness center. And then I went to an aerobics class the Wednesday, and I worked out five days a week for the remainder of college. I’ve now been exercising regularly for fifteen years, and while I might occasionally have an illness or a busy week or simply a bout of laziness that keeps me from the gym, it’s become a part of my lifestyle.

    On the other hand, I’ve told myself that I would like to lose weight or give up junk food any number of times, but no dramatic changes in that department have lasted more than a few days. However, gradually and sometimes without even noticing it, I have incorporated more and more fruits and vegetables into my diet and shifted my indulgences to higher-quality foods in smaller portions (a wedge of creamy brie instead of a fried chicken dinner), and I think I’m healthier for it.

    What’s the difference between exercising and eating healthily, for me? Exercise is a positive habit. It’s something you *do* rather than something you abstain from, and doing it is something I generally enjoy. Whereas eating healthily is half positive (eating good foods) and half negative (consuming fewer rich or unhealthy foods than I might like), and the negative half is hard for me. Plus the benefit is entirely long-term and mostly theoretical. If I stopped eating chocolate, I would… what? Magically drop ten pounds? Meet a great guy? Get a raise at work and a nicer apartment? Never be sad? Maybe one of those, but certainly not all of them, and the momentary allure of dessert is stronger than the possibility that skipping it – for the next month – might result in looser jeans. Whereas getting up early – small sacrifice – to go play at the gym – immediate payoff – I can do.

  • Riley Roth

    Truthfully every time is different, but habits I find hard to shake. If we were creatures that changed our lives and habits with a statement as simple as “This time its going to be different”, then what kind of identity would we have? I assume we would all be perfect if we could change with that ease. This post made me think of how many times people you met in elementary school/highschool/college people say “I miss you! lets get together soon”, and how many times that never happens. It’s situational, and all you can count on is that if you make a mistake twice, or “fail” an approach to something more than once- you carry with you the knowledge that it may “not be different this time”, unless you change something. For me that something seems to always be my attitude. Positivity wins my daily battles, and your book has helped me on multiple occasions ! :)

  • Charles Bradford

    I joined a running group 4 years ago. My doctor said that I was headed for an early demise at 44. So it was a decision made in an instant. Having a group that expects to see you every day makes it easier to stick to it. I am much healthier now and I weight about what I did just after High School.

  • Kyle

    It surprises me on how helpful exercise and dieting is to change a persons quality of life or self value. More than half of the people on this page mentioned one or the other as some type of change that helped them in a positive way. I’m a personal trainer and I guess just the little things like that are held to be important to others and i’m glad to hear all of your improvements you all have made on yourself. Keep up the good work! I guess it just reassures me that i’m actually accomplishing something with my job to help others like that..