Announcement! Join One of These New Projects to Boost Your Happiness in 21 Days.

As I’ve talked to people about happiness over the years (and I admit to being somewhat of a bore on the topic), I’ve found that certain issues tend to crop up most often. Do any of these sound familiar to you?

“I want to create an orderly, calm space, but I’m overwhelmed by clutter.”

“I need to find a way to insulate myself from someone else’s persistent negativity.”

“I feel terrible about how often I lose my temper with my kids.”

“I feel like I don’t know myself. What do I want to do for fun? Why can’t I make time for myself? Why do I feel bored by things that other people enjoy?”

For that reason, I’ve created four new “21 Day Projects” for you to follow, if you want to tackle these challenges in your own life. I’ve collected ideas in a form that makes it easier for people to remember and follow various connected resolutions on these particular themes.

A while back, I offered the 21 Day Relationship Challenge, and it has proved so popular that I wanted to offer more projects along the same model. So I’ve invested in creating these four new projects, because people seem to find this approach helpful.

I really do believe that in just 21 days, it’s possible to take many small, concrete steps to make your life happier. And don’t worry, none of these proposed resolutions will take much time or energy—because no one has much time or energy to spare. These are little changes you can easily fit into your ordinary day.

Intrigued? Of course you are!

Each 21-Day Project is $4.99, and delivers a new email from me, every day for three weeks, with ideas and suggestions for you to explore in your own life:

Get to know yourself better
Quit yelling at your kids
De-clutter your home and your life
Cope better with difficult people

Sign up here. Want to test this approach for free? Try the 21 Day Relationship Challenge.

As Samuel Johnson remarked, “It is by studying little things that we attain the great art of having as little misery and as much happiness as possible.” I hope you find these 21 Day Projects useful as you pursue your own happiness project.

If you do try one of the 21 Day Projects, I’d love to hear about your experience. Email me if you have any questions or comments.

If you’re reading this post through the daily email, click here to join the conversation. And if you’d like to get the daily blog post by email, sign up here.

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  • peninith1

    Oh definitely at least two of these sound worth working my way through! Thanks for helping with things-to-notice and things-to-do!

    • gretchenrubin

      Great! I hope you and others find them useful.

      So many people have signed up already! I’m thrilled.

      • Karen

        Just signed up, hoping to conquer the clutter. Thank you in advance for your help and inspiration on my own happiness project!

        • gretchenrubin

          I hope you find it useful! Good luck with YOUR happiness project.

          • johanna

            I signed up ! I want to find some inter calm and conquer the clutter. This idea sounds great Gretchen, however i hope you won’t be too overwhelmed by the enthusiasm of your readers. I am enjoying “Happiness at Home”, and laugh out loud when reading your very enjoyable writing style. Thank you.

          • gretchenrubin

            Thanks! I’m so happy to hear that you’re enjoying it. I hope the project is helpful.

  • peninith1

    I just got started on my first choice among your offerings. Your intro to the ‘coping with difficult people’ series was right on the mark–I would say that as a person who has lived single since 1983 and fledged my children in the mid 1990s, ANY other person at close quarters would appear to me to be difficult. Now my 89 year old Mom has come to live with me. We always had a somewhat contentious relationship, which I managed by keeping strong boundaries of time and space. Guess what? That’s all been busted. I really must honestly say that each of us likely considers the other a ‘difficult person’ . . . she has been living single for even longer than I have. So I need all the coping skills I can get!

    • gretchenrubin

      You will have many suggestions to offer! Post them here.

  • Liz

    Well I’m aiming to ‘know myself better’! Just joined up because it’s exactly where I’m at right now, trying to work out how to be happier and enjoy life more. Cheers Gretchen, I’m really looking forwarding to this :)

    • gretchenrubin

      I hope it’s useful!

  • peninith1

    This is a comment about ‘day 0′ or the introduction to ‘How to Cope with Difficult People.’ You quote Sartre saying ‘heaven is other people; hell is other people.’

    I reflect that heaven / hell is sometimes WHO I BECOME when I am around another person. You love to be around those who make you feel good or bring out the best in you. That is delightful. The best. On the other hand some other people can bring out my worst qualities. Often the best solution in such cases is to flee people you don’t need to know, or set strong boundaries with people you must interact with, ensuring that the times are limited and the subject matter of your conversation is protected from unwarranted intrusions.

    But when you must work closely or live intimately with another person who does not bring out the best in you–what then? I am observing that the who-I-become behaviors that I don’t like in my own situation are impatience, wall-like silence, competitiveness to know best, and that the feeling I dislike is anger. When I am by myself I don’t need to experience ANY of these things. Perhaps this explains why some people prefer to live alone–they don’t dislike others so much as they dislike the feelings they experience when others are around.

    St. Therese, who lived in a family of many sisters, and then lived in a convent, never ever escaped ‘other people.’ She appears to have learned to accept ‘annoying habits’ displayed by others, interruptions, and many of the pricks and stings of living in community. I know that detachment is the first mountain to be climbed over–that letting go of wishing to control the intense ‘thereness’ of another person’s annoying behavior.

    So that’s day zero for me.

  • Lisa Ham

    Gretchen, is there a specific place for people participating in each of the 21-day projects to post comments? (In other words, a spot just for those of us who want to de-clutter our lives?) Or do we continue to post here? Or in the current day’s blog post’s comments? Just curious.

    I just received the Day One tip for de-cluttering. I love the concept of “broken windows” as it relates to clutter. Although if clutter is analogous to crime, my house is currently a city in flames with mobs looting the shops and the police pinned down under heavy gunfire. :) That said, I think the “broken window” idea will be quite useful once a modicum of order has been restored.

    Looking forward to the next 20 days!

    • gretchenrubin

      There’s not an easy way to post comments (that would be a good idea) so just post on current day’s blog posts.
      I’m so happy to hear that the “broken window” analogy resonates with you.

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  • Brenda Berkowitz

    Sounds AWESOME!!! I’m looking forward to everything!