Further Secrets of Adulthood:
If I had to name one thing that I learned from my happiness project in Happier at Home…this is it.
If I want my home to be a serene, loving, and welcoming place, I’m the one who has to be serene, loving, and welcoming.
I’ve long been haunted by a line from Samuel Johnson–in fact, I love it so much that it’s the epigraph to The Happiness Project. He said, “He, who would bring home the wealth of the Indies, must carry the wealth of the Indies with him.” Or as Harlan Coben put it, in terms a little closer to home, “You bring your own weather to the picnic.”
What do you think? Do you find that you are the most important element to your experience of your home?
Slight tangent: the photo shows my Christmas ornament in the shape of a miniature Fisher-Price “Play Family” house–just like the one that my sister and I played with throughout our childhoods, and that my daughters play with when we visit Kansas City. I took the photo for Happier at Home; this ornament is one of my mementos from the project of writing the book. It opens up–it even has a doorbell that rings!