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Questions for You: What Habits Most Affect Your Spiritual Life and Work Life?

Have I mentioned that I’m writing a book about how we make and break habits? Oh right, I think I have. Before and After will hit the shelves in 2015 (sign up here to be notified when it’s available). Most of us — well, perhaps not the Rebels — have habits that we’d like to add or drop, and I’d …


Secret of Adulthood: Enthusiasm Is a Form of Social Courage.

Further Secrets of Adulthood:   The more I think about happiness, the more I value enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is a form of social courage – it’s safer to criticize and scoff than to praise and embrace — and I’ve decided that I’d rather be “enthusiastic” than “confident.” I have a patron saint for enthusiasm. Can you guess it? Julia Child. (By …


If You’re Trying to Keep a Good Habit, Do Other People Help or Hurt?

Assay: For my book on habits, Before and After, I’ve identified the multiple strategies that we can use to change our habits. One of the most powerful? The Strategy of Other People. We exert enormous influence on others, and they, on us; one way we influence each other is by providing mental energy to support (or thwart) someone else’s efforts. …


Story: Guess–Who Never Confuses Identical Twins?

This week’s video story:    I’m talking about One and the Same: My Life as an Identical Twin and What I’ve Learned about Everyone’s Struggle to Be Singular by my friend Abigail Pogrebin. I’ve always been fascinated (and a little envious) about the relationship between identical twins. If you want to learn more about the book, check out the book trailer …


Spending Time with Some Difficult People over the Holidays? Consider These Tips.

Back by popular demand…some ideas for dealing with difficult people over the holidays. I’ve posted this before, but every year around this time, there’s a spike in interest about ways to handle tricky situations with relatives, neighbors, and friends. Consider: 1. Think about how topics that seem innocuous to you might upset someone else. You may think you’re showing a …