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Do You Want the Tenth Bite of Ice Cream More than the First Bite, or Less?

I’ve been continuing to ponder the abstainers vs. moderators distinction. In case you haven’t been breathlessly following this line of argument: in a nutshell, when facing a temptation, abstainers do better if they abstain altogether, while moderators do better if they indulge a little bit, or from time to time. The other day, a friend who is a true moderator …


Story: “Now I’m Free From French Fries.”

For the weekly videos, I now tell a story. I’ve realized that for me, and I think for many people, a story is what holds my attention and makes a point most powerfully. This week’s story: Now I’m free from French fries. It relates to one of my favorite subjects: the abstainer/moderator split.   Can’t see the video? Click here. …


Abstainers and Moderators, I’d Love To Hear Your Answers to a Few Questions.

Last week, I posted Want to be free from French fries? Or, why abstaining may be easier than you think. The comments were so fascinating that I want to post some follow-up questions to you Abstainers and Moderators out there. (If you need to catch up on the whole abstainer/moderator split, or figure out what category you’re in, read here.) …


Want To Be Free From French Fries? Or, Why Abstaining May Be Easier Than You Think.

I’ve written a lot about abstainers vs. moderators. In a nutshell, the difference is: abstainers find it easier to resist temptation by giving up something altogether, while moderators find it easier to indulge in moderation. I’m an abstainer. I find it very easy to give something up, but I drive myself crazy when I try to indulge in a limited …


Trying To Resist Holiday Temptations? 7 Tips for Abstainers and Moderators.

Every Wednesday is Tip Day. This Wednesday:  7 tips for using the abstainer/moderator split to fight holiday temptations. Ah, the holidays. Everywhere you go, you face cookies, candy, booze, and snacks and treats of every kind. While this creates a festive atmosphere, it can also lead to a lot of anxiety and/or guilt in those of us trying to resist …